A couple months ago I made an impulsive decision which quickly went south and have been riding it down ever since, bypassing many opportunities to cut my losses to a point where things seemed a little hopeless. Finally, here I was making a final decision - do I hold on in hopes that this will turn up again over the course of several months or do I cut my losses before it actually hits rock bottom?
So I turned to some of my "running buddies" for advice and got many brilliant ideas but one in particular really resonated. Basically, would I engage in this particular situation if it presented itself to me today, exactly as it is? "Forget how much you're down. Think: from now on."
I'm sharing this with you today because I think we all have many times when we feel discouraged over things that seem to have gone wrong. We beat ourselves up for not making the "right" decision but we need to move on anyway instead of staying trapped in that unhealthy and useless cycle.
I was lucky enough to have someone push me out of that cycle and tell me to quit worrying about the past and move on. How many times do you hear that? These words just made more sense to me, I guess. "Think: from now on."
So I started applying it to everything in my life: work, relationships and myself. So far, it's given me a better perspective and positive action and I hope it will for you too.
For example, if you're working in a job or career where you feel like you have let opportunities pass that you should have pursued, don't get bogged down about what is "lost" think about the opportunities you have now or can get ready for in the future. Say, "From now on I'm going to _______." Fill in the blank with your wish list.
We all have relationships that we wish some aspect of it was different. Things we should have said or done that the time has passed, maybe it doesn't matter anymore. Or does it? Are there things you should still say or do? Can you get ready for the next time that situation comes up and handle it better next time (believe me, there will be a next time)? "From now on..."
Is there something you should be doing for yourself that you keep putting off or think the chance is gone? Think about what you can do from now on to make sure more doesn't pass you by.
So that's my story for today and my hope that every time you are facing a situation where you want to go deep into a dark hole of disappointment and regret you'll remember to say "From now on I'm going to..." and let me know how it goes!
Lots of love from me to you!